1. What might it reveal if our actions actually show something true about us rather than something accidental?
2. Why do you think surface-level change is often appealing, and why does it usually fail to produce lasting transformation?
3. What is the difference between lowering standards to feel better about ourselves and holding higher standards that invite real change?
A. Can you think of an example where lowering the bar felt kind in the moment but harmful in the long run?